Tuesday Toffee #23: your choice of trust

Whatever situation you are in, collecting your courage to ask for help might be a very delicate thing for you. We’re more or less well conditioned not to ask for help, not to show our weakness, our shadowy part, that we are less than perfect.

Maybe the hardest thing to accept in our heart is something the mind will always and has always been fighting against: that we are not perfect. We may fail, we get sick, we need to recharge, we have unstable performance depending our actual mental/emotional state, and sometimes we do need help to get better…

On the bottom line it doesn’t matter what we look for: medical help or alternative therapies, fortune tellers, soul-wingmen.
What matters is the trust: if I trust that particular person to treat me good, respectfully, competent, and with good results. Great expectations, aren’t they?

Of course, sometimes, when we try a new approach, a new therapy, we are more skeptic than trusting, because we don’t know what to expect. It’s like a new flavoured cupcake: if we don’t try it who knows how it really is, and how it makes us feel.
Such skeptical standpoint might be helpful at the beginning, but it later on it definitely doesn’t help to open up that Pandora’s box inside us which we’d like to get rid off.

In craneosacral therapy and even more in the craneosacral biodynamic therapy, the body doesn’t exist on its own, separated from our emotional and mental parts. It is part of our whole being,  in one unity, everything together, with all its interconnected parts.

We often use our body as a warehouse of unwanted emotions, old shocks and traumas which we were not yet able to let go (because of their impact in our nervous system), so when finally our dear body can let it go, emotions, feelings and images often start to flow again until they wear off and disappear.
And until we may get to the roots, we may pass several sessions: the body needs to gain strength and a certain inner balance to be able to bring up old and most of the time forgotten stress-packages, which finally can dissolve. Let things go needs lots of unforced, peaceful stability that the system, which built and secured itself around this particular thing maybe as long as 20-30 years (or more), would and should not collapse and re-traumatize  itself when finally it could let it be gone.

Good results cannot happen without trust, whatever your attitude is, it gets essential in such processes. No trust, no results. It’s as simple as this.

Being skeptical serves until a certain point. Then, of course, based on your personally concluded evidences, you ought to decide whether you can offer your unconditional trust for your therapist/coach/psychologist, and the process wherein this person is leading you, or not.

It’s your choice of trust: either you trust the process, or your therapist, or both. In this case, your therapist will be able to work his or her magic, and help you on many ways you didn’t even think about.
Or, you can stay skeptical and closed: in this case, failure and disappointment might be guaranteed.

And believe me, if you don’t trust your therapist, you’d better just stop the process: otherwise you’d keep paying for something you don’t really want and your therapist would also feel as disappointed as you, because, she’ll know that she can’t help you, even if she’d see where and how could have helped with her knowledge, only if you’d allow it to happen. In this case, of course, she may advise to stop the process for her own good.

Trust, or don’t trust, as you like. But if you are looking for a real solution, talk to yourself to make up your choices, and act accordingly. For where you put your trust, there you will triumph.

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Anna Sólyom

Certified TRE® Provider, Biodynamic craniosacral therpaist, PSYCH-K® advanced facilitator. Writer. Dancer. Body consciousness. Mindfulness practices and meditations. Reconnect with your wellbeing.

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